Take a dance class?
Wear that crop top that has been hiding in your drawer?
Maybe start the business you have been dreaming of for years?
Wear your new bikini to the beach?
Spend more time with friends and less time worrying about how you look?
Finally believe that you are worthy of love?
Self-love is a funny thing. It gets a reputation for being selfish, and many of us have been trained that being selfish is the worst possible thing we could be as a woman. As a result of this belief, we often orphan our needs, spend our time taking care of everyone else, and buy into the lie that we aren’t good enough.
What many of us forget is that how we feel about ourselves impacts how we see everything else. Taking time to appreciate who we are, both internally and externally, will allow us to show up with greater confidence, relate more deeply to others, embrace our entire selves, and enjoy the heck out of this life!
While there is a strong cultural narrative that honors a particular type of beauty over another, we get to choose whether we partake in that story.
We hope that you will join us in embracing a different story in which we affirm that bodies are not meant to be shoved into a specific mold, instead, they are to be nurtured so they can blossom to their unique shape with diverse characteristics.
Repeat these words to yourself one hundred times if you have to:
All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful.
Trust us; we know this is easier said than done, which is why we believe in cultivating self-care practices that help us to love our bodies as they are now.
If you are ready to love yourself more just as you are, here are three of our favorite tips for truly embracing your body now:
Our mind is a tricky machine. It collects the data that we are continually seeing and frames our worldview from that information.
We have a lot of power to shape the way we see the world by controlling the visual media that we take in. This is the danger of subscribing to the “fitspo” (fitness inspiration) or “thinspo” (thin inspiration) culture. If all we are looking at are models with the same body type, our mind will start to create stories to compare ourselves to that body type. If our bodies look different than the ones we are regularly seeing, we can often experience feelings of unworthiness.
The beauty of this rule is that the opposite is true as well. If we choose to show our eyes diverse people who have bodies of all shapes and sizes, we will be reminded that the world is filled with such people.
Diversifying the visual content you are consuming by following women who are advocates for body positivity can help you to create a narrative of self-love.
Our bodies hold us up, give us breath, let us dance, hold our hearts, allow us to see the beauty of nature, carry us on adventures, and so so much more.
Can we take a moment to be grateful for the fact that these physical suits we have are so much more than just decorations?
Taking time to thank our body daily for all that it does for us will help us to embrace it more. Afterall, gratitude and hate can’t exist in the same space, so the quickest way to banish hate is to live in a space of gratitude.
Want to create a practice of gratitude? Start your day writing down ten things you are grateful for. Don’t forget to add yourself to that life!
Our thoughts shape our reality.
We cannot think hateful thoughts about our bodies and expect to love it.
The way we speak to ourselves is often shaped by the environments in which we grew up, the people we have been around, and the content we have consumed.
Some of us have been saying hateful things to ourselves for so long we can’t even remember when it started. You cannot change an entire narrative overnight, but you can start moving in a different direction one intentional step at a time.
Choosing an affirmation of self-love that you can substitute for negative self-talk is a great way to begin to change your inner dialogue.
Whenever you catch yourself speaking to yourself in a way that isn’t serving you, speak your affirmation to yourself instead. You can also write this affirmation on sticky notes and put it in places you often see like your bathroom mirror or steering wheel.
You are allowed to desire to be stronger and healthier, but you can’t hate yourself into being different.
Learning to love yourself as you are now will make any journey you choose to step into an experience full of love.
Let’s start where we are, fill this space with love, and then keep moving forward with love.
We believe you are so deserving of radical self-love.